Wealth and Wisdom
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You can’t build peace while constantly rescuing chaos.

Here’s what I mean: For a lot of us (especially the oldest sibling, the dependable ones, the fixers) money gets tangled up with love. We pick up tabs, cover family emergencies, say “I got it” before we even check our accounts. We call it generosity, but deep down, it’s fear.

Fear of letting people down. Fear of being called selfish. Fear of seeing someone we love struggle.

But here’s the truth: overextending doesn’t make you a better person. It makes you a burnt-out one. Love doesn’t require you to go broke. Support shouldn’t cost you safety.

Boundaries don’t block love. They protect it.

Dollars and Sense

Someone once shared that every time their phone rang and it was family, their chest tightened. They already knew what was coming: “Can you send some money?” And even when they didn’t have it, they’d send what they could, then quietly panic until payday.

They talked about how hard it felt to say no. The guilt. The pressure. That fear of being seen as selfish or “too good” now.

Eventually, they asked themselves, “What would it look like to help without hurting myself?” Next time their cousin called, they didn’t send cash. They offered to help build a budget instead. It felt strange. But also… like a breath of fresh air.

They didn’t just protect their wallet. They protected their peace.

Before saying yes to helping someone financially, ask yourself three questions:

1️⃣ Can I give this without resentment?
2️⃣ Is this help sustainable?
3️⃣ Am I meeting a need or maintaining a pattern?

If the answer drains you, that’s your cue to pause. True generosity comes from abundance, not exhaustion.

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